Relationship Struggles

We all have to agree that at some point, every relationship takes on a new turn in the power struggle phase. For some, this can mean actually having to compromise. Yes…I just said the “C” word…”compromise”. I know…don’t get too excited just yet because I know this is a hard pill to swallow, just keep an open mind.

Let’s face it…relationships are not easy, if they were, divorce would be unheard of…it’s that clear. So what we have to focus on is how we can contribute evenly to compromise so we can succeed in our relationships. Let’s say for example, your partner has an emotional relationship with their “ex” and keeps on “fixing” their problems or lending an ear…the question is…can you live with that? Or will you try to stop their relationship or try to change your partner because you are insecure with your relationship? Bottom line here is…what can you live with…and are you willing to “give” a little to ensure you are still allowing your partner free will.

Pick your battles. It’s that simple. You see…if you ensure your partner has the “free will” to make their own decisions, you are giving them complete trust and are expecting that they will not screw you over…am I right in this assumption? So, with giving them the choice and their own free will, we are actually already compromising. They may not know it, but we certainly do, don’t we!

So…once we’ve made the commitment of compromise, it all becomes a matter of choice for our partners. Some people would feel vulnerable and I can certainly see how that can be possible. However, don’t you forget that you’ve got the same power in your own hands. You also have your own free will and you could just as well turn around and challenge your partner as well with an issue unknown to you. You just never know what power struggles your partner may be facing on their own with your relationship.

Keep the communication lines open…if you don’t know the answer to something, just ask your partner, but be a bit cautious because once the question is asked, you can never turn back time. So before you open up a can of worms…ask yourself these 3 little questions:

1. If I ask the question…do I really want to know the answer?
2. Is the answer a make it or break it deal?
3. Can I live with it?

I know you have the courage and the strength to do what’s right and to live with the consequences of your choices.

In love and light,

Jennifer Boudreau
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